Committment To God and Treatment in Marriage

The other day some friends of mine got into a heated argument on facebook because I believe that if you are truly committed to God then you CANNOT go home and treat your spouse badly. My thing is if a person who is truly a Child of God there is no room in there to be treating your spouse badly. Now I am not talking about minor disagreements, for those are bound to happen. I am talking about treating your spouse so badly that the person would rather not live with you.

Now I don't understand why a pastor or even a regular Christian (who is praying regularly and reading their bible) would not know how to treat their spouse? Even if you cannot read, as long as you know God, then your spouse should be happy to come home to you at the end of the day. It is not rocket science. If the members of your church are happier with you than your spouse is, then it is time to go back to the drawing board.

The bible tells us how we are to treat each other as husbands and wives. Those who do not know or are not sure should leave marriage alone until they know how. Our spouses should get the best treatment whether in public or private. A man or woman who is a committed Christian will make the best spouse there is. That is my story and I am sticking to it.

Expat Librarian

Now I have been working as an expat worker since 2005. I started with Cayman, then went to Barbados, Bahamas and Dominica. In all of these places there is a recurring situation. Expats are not looked on kindly by the persons in the host countries. For some reason they think that we have come to their country to deprive them of a job that they qualify for. There is no compnay that would chose an expat over a native (if that native is qualified). It costs a whole lot for any company to employ an expat so it would serve them much better to hire locally.

So rest assured, that we have not come to deprive you of anything....we are just here to fill a need that the company has. Here is the thing! Find out what it is that the expat has that you do not have and work towards getting that...So the next time that person's contract is up for renewal instead of renewing that contract they can hire you. Believe me, that would sound like music to their ears if as a local you say to them I am now qualified for that position.

There is really no need to try every chance you to get to make us leave...the average expat has very thick skin so you being unkind to them will not make them pack up and leave...unless they really want to. So I propose a truce...a truce between expats and the members of the host country....To those of you who have made us feel welcome, a big thank you to you...but for the others who feel like we are public enemy number one....maybe it is time to lighten up....we don't mean any harm....SERIOUSLY!

For persons who would like to see the world or some of it at no cost...then being an expat worker might be a good thing. A good 5 - 10 year stint is what I would recommend but if you can only manage 2 years or 6 months like I did in one place (I won't mention the name) then that is fine too. It is really a great way to see what other workers are doing in different places. Sometimes there are quite a few things that you can learn to take back to your home country. At other times you might feel like you are in La-La- Land....At the end of the day it is all good and you come away from the experience usually a little wiser....

People Who are Never Thankful

Why is it some people are never thankful? No matter how much they have they keep clamouring for more and never thankful for what they already have. Now don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with clamouring for more if that is what rocks your boat. The trouble is not being thankful for what you already have even when it is way more than most people have. There are thousands of people who would love to have just a fraction of what you have.

We need to recognize when we are blest and never cease to be thankful. As I always say, look around you and see the many people who do not even have a fraction of what you have. When you compare yourself with others you are way out front. It is a good thing God is not like man for some of us would be left holding nothing; just to give us a wake up call.

Each day I am thankful. I am thankful for every cent that I have in the bank, yes down to the last cent I am thankful for. I am thankful that I can help someone else whenever they have a need. I am thankful that I have a job and good health insurance. I am thankful that I have the activity of my limbs. I am thankful that I can see the sunshine outside my windows.

So let us never cease to be thankful

Seats in Church

Doesn't it just infuriate you when some people in church act like they have the deed to certain seats. People of God we need to stop this very annoying habit. News flash! unless there is a sign that says "Reserved" on the seat then usually the seat is fair game. If you are so concerned about sitting in a particular spot then maybe the thing to do is to come early and claim your spot.

For God's sake though if you arrive in church and God forbid that someone else is sitting in "your" seat then please be Christian enough to sit somewhere else. It is very off putting and annoying to have someone come in way after church start and want you to move to somewhere else.

Now as I said before, if it is a special service and they forgot to put the reserve signs or did not get to put the sign before church started then that is different. As long as your name is not on the seat, then it is fair game and the early bird catches the worm. It is first come, first serve so if someone is already seated, especially if they are already worshipping then PLEASE, PLEASE sit elsewhere. If you have to sit at that seat, then have them place a reserve sign on the seat each Sunday just for you. Good luck with that though for I don't know any pastor who is going to agree to that.

In Defense of Professional Women

Men is there a reason why most of you are afraid of us? And what do you mean when you say we are too independent? Speaking on behalf of Christian professional women, we would really like to know. Now please note that this is not for those professional women who act like they are better than some men. No, I cannot speak for those because I believe that we are all equal before God. There are those of us, however, who take our cue from God and as such we look at character rather than what you have or what you are worth.

Why are you so turned off because we are well educated and because we can carry our own weight? Are you asking us to put these things aside so that we can be attractive to you? Are you asking us to just stop at a High School education just so that you can look good? I want to believe this is not what you are saying but believe me that it how it looks. Follow me here! If you say that because we are well educated and make a decent salary you cannot deal with us; then what we hear is if you get rid of those things then I will feel more comfortable approaching you.

Now, if as professional women we throw these things in the faces of the men who approach us then I agree that they should run as far away from us as they can. This would be a prescription for disaster if we enter a relationship thinking that we are above the other party. If we are going to keep reminding them of these things then maybe, just maybe we need a serious touch from the Master's hand.

If you look in the churches all over the world, it is the professional Christan woman who is still single or who is single the longest. My question to you all is why is this so? Is it because we are sabotaging our futures by our actions or is it because men need to stop being so afraid of us?

Buy Puss in Bag

Please tell me that there is still at least one Christian man out there left who still believes that they do not have to "taste and see" before they walk down the aisle with you. I kinda expect that from men who are not saved but when the man claims to be a Christian then I expect that they would understand where I am coming from. I think as women we have been afraid to stand up for what we believe in because we feel that we might not get a man. News flash though! Sleeping with the man a million and one times will still not guarantee that he will put a ring on it.

It is amazing to me the reasons that men come up with as to why you should sleep with them even though they are not your husband. Sometimes it is so amusing that you almost want to just drop flat on the ground and really roll over with laughter. If as a Christian man you feel that this is okay to do then go right ahead. Just don't try to force it down someone else's throat. How about finding a "christian" woman who believes that she also wants to "taste and see"

At the end of the day it is a matter of choice. There are some Christian women who believe that if it means doing without a man they are going to follow what the Word of God says. So if that is you then carry on, there is nothing wrong with you. Even though people around you might want you to feel like you have two heads. There is nothing worst than having allowed someone to convince you that "since we will be getting married we can do it" Only to find that after the deed he has changed his mind. It is better that he moved on and you did not share your body with him than the other way around. It is much easier to deal with as far as I am concerned.

Well till we speak again. Peace

Taking Care of Men

Okay if I see one more article or book that tells us how to treat men I am going to scream. We get it! We know how to treat you! When is someone going to tell them how to treat us *roll eyes*

Yes we know you are visual but have you ever stopped to think that we are visual too. Why is it the man with the biggest gut want the woman with the flattest tummy. Especially when they have a few shillings.

From talk show, to website, to magazine to entire books it is how to please men, it is what to do to make your man marry you, it is what to do to keep your man from straying. Stop already! Is this some sort of conspiracy - lolrotf. I am convinced that somewhere out there men are paying these people to write these things because there is no way that so many of them could believe that only women need lessons.

How about someone telling men that they have a roll to play too! Hello! You don't have the patent at all on how to treat women so just as how women read the magazines and the books and search the internet maybe it is time for some of you to start doing the same. We are not that complicated at all. Trust me!

Take my advice start treating your woman how she is to be treated and see what happens. Be honest for a change. If you know that all you want out of the relationship is a good time then tell that to her up front so she can decide if she is fine with that. Surprise, surprise there are some women out there who are cool with that. Why do I say that? That way everyone knows upfront from day one not to expect anything out of this relatuonship. But trouble comes when you don't say anything and one year go by then 2 years and of course you know this woman begins to think all is well.

While we are coming clean here is a news flash. Don't have sex if you are not ready to be a father for the only fool proof contraceptive is not to do anything. I would safely say all men who are having sex kinda have an idea where babies come from. Yet somehow it only dawn on them when the woman says "I have missed my period" then all of a sudden there is major panic. hahahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahaaha. Suddenly you realize that you are not ready to be father but lost all sense of biology during the act. Well, well most women want babies so most of them will want to keep the child so take my foolish advice and only sleep with women who you would want to have a child with. That would save you and the woman a lot of grief.

Well I am out of here. See you next time to continue with the subject