Controlling Mothers and Spineless Sons

This is a very touchy subject that can be seen at every level of society. Some women seem to want to control their children's lives way after they have become adults. A lot of times these are single women who feel that they are entitled to something since they were mother and father to that son. In other cases these women belong to families with husband and all. Ladies may I submit that you take a page out of the book of the men. As I said this can be seen at every level of society but I want to touch on the women who are supposed to be Christians. Yes! you are the ones I want to speak to.

Do you believe that if you train up your sons in the way they should go then when it is time to pick a wife then they can make the best decision? Well if you have done a good job, I don't see the need for you to want to choose the woman for your son. I have seen many men in church select a wife just to please their mothers, in order to end the fuss. I am not sure why there should even be a fuss in the first place since is the son who will have to live with that woman for the rest of his life. The only place you should be in the equation is to give wise counsel and pray for your son.....BUT the actual selection of that mate should be left to the man.

Now to you spineless men who allow your mothers to run rings around you. It is time to stop! It is time to stand up and choose the person who you are comfortable with. Remember that you will have to live with this person when mummy gone home. I understand that we would all like for everyone to love the person we want to marry but it is more important that we love and respect that person.

So as I said before....if you have trained up your son in the right way, teaching him to make the right decisions after seriously seeking God....then believe that he can make the right decision when the time comes to select a wife.

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Adult Bullies in Church

There is this trend in churches of adult bullies and unfortunately these are mainly middle aged or older women.    Lord give me faith!  These women take it on themselves to be judge and jury of everything and everybody who come through the doors of the church.  What I cannot understand is why they have been allowed to be such a pain to all for so long?  It is not that they are hiding what they are doing or how they are.  The entire church body knows who these women are and what they are doing.....YET they have been allowed to terrorize people for years.

It is sad to say but these women rarely have anything good to say about anybody including the pastor.  Of course they will get along nicely with the pastor if he agrees with them and allow them to terrorize everyone. However, as soon as the pastor stands up to them he/she becomes public enemy number 1.  The other sad thing is many of these women have been in church for many years and have listened to countless sermons.  Now I don't know if they have selective hearing or what....because I know at some point someone must have spoken on the topic of loving one another.   You have to wonder if they were really listening to anything  after all these years.

My concern is the many people they have caused to leave the church because of their nonsense.   You have to be strong to keep grounded when they are around because their words can cut like a knife and have wounded many.  Some persons cannot deal with all this drama and as a result they have left.   Now if they leave to attend another church then that is not so bad....what is bad and more than sad is when they leave and just decide not to have anything to do with church.   

My solution to all this is to ask these women to either shape up or LEAVE! Yes that is what I said....I think we should ask them to find somewhere else to ply their wares.   Many persons have left the church because of these busy bodies; people who could have contributed much more than they are "contributing".  I urge those who are in charge to look into this and do something about it before some churches are left with just them.   Or maybe that would not be such a bad idea, then they could all just go at each other until Jesus comes.